Wednesday, October 23, 2024

current status

status at 23 oct 24:


I'm sitting at the PC. Middle of the night. Enjoying myself, wrapping up minor actions, some essential, others just enjoyable.
A typical night, in fact. I like to "work" late.

Every so often I think, I could die within a week. And you know what? It barely worries me.

I don't accept it. But it's now... just a part of my life.

So... for those who wonder:

Less than two weeks ago I travelled by ambulance to ED at RPH.
Mark, the surgeon who removed my brain tumour seven years ago, he looked at CT and MRI scans and said that he should not operate. I agreed.
I now have cancer thoughout my brain stem. Giving me anywhere from within weeks to... maybe... with new treatment... I could live two years. (I've started the new treatment.)
Barely a shock for me, I've been expecting this "chaos theory" style of sudden explosive growth of the cancer. (GBM4 as first diagnosed (is there a GBM5?)

Now I am back home. Very comfortable and... I have to say it... very happy.
Happy? Well... no more doubt about what will happen. But still a lot of uncertainty as to... when.

Though I think I have finally lost my life-long attitude of, no rush, I can always leave off doing whatever, I can always do it later.
Replaced by the certainty that either "it" will never get done... or it won't be *my* problem.

Hmmm... except that a few procrastinated actions are keeping me busy, they are worth doing even in the short-term.

With the bonus that, If I fail so miserably that it's embarrassing: I won't care for long... and that's something to glad about :-)




Dr Nick Lethbridge / Consulting Dexitroboper

half blind, half deaf, dying of cancer,
So what.
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Saturday, October 19, 2024

Footnote to temper

An earlier post describes my bad temper.
Not to excuse myself. Barely even to explain myself.
More to understand myself.which may help me do better next time but...
I just like to understand.
Now I can stop thinking about it... and get onto whatever comes next.



half blind. half deaf. dying of cancer.
so what?
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Dr Nick Lethbridge
Consulting Dexitroboper

   

Restless evening

I'm exhausted but don't want to go to bed. Standard for me, I prefer to unwind before I collapse.
I sit, read, think, snooze, do some small odds and ends by PC. Eg download an ebook for reading later. Simple stuff but satisfying to get it done.

Finally ready for bed -- and faff around a bit more. Put things here, there, where I know where they are... mostly so I can get through the night in semi dark, without needing lights which will disturb deb.
Who btw is already fast asleep. Despite never able to sleep with lights shining, ha :-)

Organised, prepared... I sleep soundly.
Yep, OCD. And pleased with it.


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so what?
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Dr Nick Lethbridge
Consulting Dexitroboper

   

Visitor

Deb's sister drops in. Three people, gossip and discussion, good extra company (for both Deb and me)

And she has not, yet, heard my developing theories on the mechanics of micturation... I think that's the word, anyway, I like the alliteration.
Deb has heard it all, several times.

What Deb doesn't know is that I am already planning an analysis of the pushing of poo... ha :-!




half blind. half deaf. dying of cancer.
so what?
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Dr Nick Lethbridge
Consulting Dexitroboper

   

My bad temper

In the medi hire shop we look at "outdoor" zimmer frames. A bit more bulky, solid, stable than the indoor frames. Indoor frames are not to be used outdoors. Hard to move, at risk of tipping.

I resist the outdoor frames. I can feel my temper building. Deb can too. But why?

What I see is the full little old man needs a near wheelchair for shopping. Sitting on the frame while carer does all the fetching, pushing, caring. My end of any independence. Which, of course I have already lost. But an outdoor frame, with seat, ho matter how detachable, feels like -- "the end".
I feel a difference between seeing the inevitable but untimed end... and taking a step which will be good -- but just a tiny bit earlier than... forced.

Stupid? No. Mostly I accept. This time I resist, almost fight.

My attitude is clear. Best i can say is, I don't shout.
Deb accepts, we go home. No new frame. I'll be stuck indoors.
Optimistic: that still includes indoors at shops.

I always like to think first. Know exactly what I'm about to do, before I even start. Though fast enough once started.  I'm very slow to start and can still get it wrong.
Deb sees the need -- and gets it done. Sometimes not the best result... but done. We've always been like that.


Yes I've limited myself. It still feels preferable to the absolute admission of being already stopped.
I can always pretend that... I don't really want to go walking outdoors.







half blind. half deaf. dying of cancer.
so what?
notdotdeaddotyet.blogspot.com :-)

Dr Nick Lethbridge
Consulting Dexitroboper

   

New zimmer?

Friday:
My loaner-zimmer is brilliant. 
Sure I can get round the house without it, carefully. The frame makes it almost as easy as if I could see clearly. Especially good at night when light is patchy.
We walk outside. From home, down road, across grass of park, along limestone track.sit, relax, watch Lake. Perfect spring day. A most enjoyable walk. Very tiring, all 730m of it.

Zimmer is for indoors.only. we drive to look at what is suited to outdoor use. Spoiler: no luck. Or... I won't agree.





half blind. half deaf. dying of cancer.
so what?
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Dr Nick Lethbridge
Consulting Dexitroboper

   

Friday, October 18, 2024

It has to be said

Damn, this has to be said. I keep forgetting. Now, while I remember, wuickly:
I have come home to die.
Well, actually. I came home on Mon-die.
To a chorus of groans... 

Lmao :-)

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so what?
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does Deb worry?

Does Deb worry? you bet :-(

I've just swallowed my five morning pills. Well. three plus one split in half. So few, barely worth a mention. Except that I can't swallow pills. Never could.
Give me one pill, several glasses of water. the water will be swallowed and the pill still in my mouth.
We've found that pills in yoghurt does work, eventually.
I count the pills as they go down, make sure I get them all.
The yoghurt is on a saucer... when "finished" I lick the saucer, just in case I still missed one.
When our cat needed pills it would eat all round the pill, we had to physically push the pill into its throat. I'm not quite that bad. Yet.

Anyway. yes: Deb is worried.

Yesterday on our first little adventure out in the car. she reverses, as usual, down the drive. Scrapes across the brick letterbox.
Gets out to check the damage and leaves the engine on. The car starts rolling further down the drive.

Worse yet... I just sit there. So non compos that I do not even think of grabbing at the handbrake.

All ends well, except for a new scrape on the car. Deb goes back to good driving, I open my eyes, all is back to normal safe standards.

Interesting: a couple of years ago Deb spent a night in hospital. I drive to pick her up. Pretty much the same story -- I scrape the side of the car against a concrete pillar in the hospital carpark. I'm worried about Deb more than parking the car.

Is Deb worried?
Yes.

Me? yes, a bit worried. But... so what.
Deb will be okay. Deb and the boys assure me: Deb will be okay :-)





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===

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Even more normal

I need to catch up on some emails.small steps for my life which is not cancer.
Note to self: yes, I am still living and there is life beyond cancer. A good, interesting life. Remember that!

Some of these emails will be to strangers. Do they need to know why I prefer email to phone? Why there is the occasional wild typo? Why I may be in a hurry?
I update my email signature...
Then:

Ask our tax accountant if I need to do anything special. Tell her who to contact if it's not me.

Keep in touch with my rogaine co-setter. Make sure that he's okay with final setting details. Tell him that my pwmapapp will be available. Whether it is worth using -- I volunteered to set largely to get a solid test of the app.

Attempt to set up a media contact. In October there's a major tourism conference in Perth. An ideal time to push for a media story about my app. Which is really aimed at tourism.
I have no real hope but... it's a (very) small chance and... not to be missed. 
Right. I also want a contact on the Tourism WA board. And kings Park board. More people I can, try to, talk to about pwmapapp.
A quick response about an investment property.
An email to my ranting blog, the one that lets me rant without annoying deb :-)

Finally...
Wake up at 3am. Update this blog. Document the small steps if the day, perhaps take some more steps. Document it all so that I can stop thinking about it.
Consider snoozing on this comfortable sofa...
Till 6am, when deb will finally wake up and it will be time for breakfast.
At the end of the day the score is,
Reality zero.
Blind optimism. Very high, as usual.

Almost the end of a very normal... okay, normal for me... day and night.

Phew :-)

Oh, that's right... not yet the end.
I want to contact Hemp, the legalise wannabis party.
Push some ideas. Ideas that will help them. Ensure that I, and other non-users, can support the party. And, of course, my ideas will help me.
Now... is that the end of the day?





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Second shopping

In the afternoon we go to the Forum, for the "main" shopping.
The same cautious approach as for the grocer's  but with extra adventure.

First, the library. Deb leaves me, all alone ;-) as she goes to the library to get books.
No worries. I lean on a post and totally fail to fall over :-)

Inside, we stop for coffee and cake. Deb is able to pick up a loaf of bread while I stay at the table.
Very small advances. Back towards a more normal life.
As I'm typing I think, not "recovery". Never recovery. But it's great to feel more normal. To do, ever so slowly, normal things.

I like to buy a Lotto ticket each week. Just one. The ticket sits in my pocket for a week. With the thought that, maybe, I am carrying a million dollar ticket. Until the next week, when I find that I have lost. And buy the next.

This week, as usual I think, this could be my million dollar winner.
Then I wonder... will I live long enough to even spend my million dollars?
Now I realise.. of course I will have time to spend a million dollars :-)


Quite the adventurous day.
Yes, tiring.
But so very enjoyable.







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A Taste of Normal

Thursday is our day for the weekly shopping.
Do I dare even leave the house?
I take it all step by step.

At first I think... I'll sit at home all day. Let deb go out and do all the shopping. Let's pretend that this is stage one, prove to Deb that I can be safely left alone at home for a few hours. Give deb at least the freedom to get back to real life.

Deb goes for a morning run.

By the time she returns, I have decided that I can at least go with her to the first shop. I can always decide to stay in the car. Or sit and wait outside the shop.
See? Small easy steps, each with the option of avoiding the next.

Meanwhile, I emailed Daphne the oncologist. Asking, if I move around -- am I likely to aggravate my tumour? I'm less worried about the swelling, it's a side effect, though dangerous. I do not want to increase blood flow -- and set off a nasty reaction from the tumour.
I really am analytical. Worried. Planning. Worried -- but not in a panic... not unless advised to panic.

Luckily Thursday is daphne's day to work. Her reply comes before we set off for the shop. Yes, she even recommends... that I try a bit of *Gentle* exercise. With Deb, with the zimmer.

We drive to the grocer's. 
Deb fetches a shopping trolley, as a zimmer-substitute.
The zimmer is for balance not support. I can balance on the trolley. Or on deb, if necessary.

It's all very cautious. Carefully considered in advance. One very small advance at a time.

It all works.
Deb shops, I follow with, pushing, balanced on, the trolley. Deb does everything else.

It is, as deb comments... quite the little adventure for me:-)

And it is such a great pleasure to be -- even in such a limited fashion -- outside the house.
Even, briefly -- outside in the fresh air (of the shop's car park.

Freedom!

Then home again. For deb to put away the groceries. And for me to sit, and sleep... after the excitement of my morning.
I'm not exhausted but, yes... it was difficult.
Well worth it.








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so what?
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Thursday, October 17, 2024

Shift in attitude

Here's the thing: I am now facing real death.
For seven years it has been *definite* death. My GBM4 is said to be terminal, aggressive, incurable.
Still, easy enough to deny, ignore or cope with.
With no deadline, just past records which give life expectancy from 18 months to, perhaps five years.
After five years, well... I've been laughing. Very easy to ignore ( though not forget) reality.
Anyway, once I passed 70 years old I felt, that's a good lifetime of years :-)

And suddenly, my life is measured in... still uncertain! but a lot less.
Because the cancer is now very active. And it is active in an area of brain which *will* kill me.
Very hard to ignore.


Remember those "death doulas"? They have *never* ever faced their own, definite death. How could they possibly know what it is like?

Well, I now know what it is like.
[End of rant]

A bit scary but, not so bad. Worse than the last years, yes but, well...

And of the actual moment of death... I still know nothing. Because I have not yet been there.

I hope to add a bit of understanding, if I'm able.

But I'm not going to charge money for services for which  I have as little real understanding as anyone else.
Now... end of rant, really :-)



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so what?
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Bladder half full

I'm spending a lot of time analysing peeing and pooing.
Well, why not? It's a topic which fascinates nurses. But no-one explains it. Not to my satisfaction, anyway.

Today the pallies ask, of course, about the current state and recent changes to my peeing and pooing.

I mention my interest in "double-voiding" and what I do about it.
The doc has clearly considered the issue. And even seems slightly interested in my approach. So, time to document...

There's a lot, perhaps too much for one post. But I'll start.

On my first stay in hospital, years ago that is, the nurses would measure the volume of urine in my bladder.
I've just been for a pee, so, zero? Wrong!
Every measure showed up to a cupful of urine in my bladder.
I'd go to the toilet,  pee again... still urine in my bladder.
Not good, according to the nurses.

Years later, I heard the term double void: finish peeing -- then immediately pee again.
As if... no use at all. Not without further analysis, anyway.
It's a problem worthy of, my level of, analysis.

As I expected... too much 
For one post.
Deb is now awake. I'll post this much. Get back with possibly many more peeing topics in separate posts.

Later.







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Minor misconception

I may have written that my brain stem is dying.
I may have written? Once posted, I never re-read my words.
Anyway.

I think that this is more accurate:
My brain stem is fine -- but is being throttled.

The cancer is growing amongst all the stems and florets of my cauliflower shaped brain. This causes damage, obstruction. Makes it more difficult for the brain to operate. While being throttled.

My tumour started in a visual cortex so vision was affected early.
For other people, other parts of the brain are first to go. So, different people, different tumour locations, different immediate effects.

Different long term effects too, I guess. But long term is not usually a worry ;-)


On top of the tumour damage... the brain reacts to damage by swelling. Bruising, sort of.
Swelling pushes on the brain. Causes more difficulties for brain operation.
Swelling may be in different, though close, parts of my brain. The effects are different to effects of direct tumour damage.
Perhaps dizziness? Falling? Headaches. Cutting off blood flow, so more of these effects?
It's funny... it's only today that I'm even thinking about Swelling and its different effects.


On the bright side: Swelling, bruising -- can be reduced. That's a key role of the dex (dexamethzone? Very useful drug. I take several a day. Gradually reducing dose as swelling slows.

The tumour is the real risk.
The swelling is dangerous but controllable.
And that's something to be glad about :-)




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Scared

The pallies are here for an introductory talk. They like to get to know the patient. Background, attitude, health, I don't know... getting to know me... and deb as my carer.
We chat:
This is me, deb, the pally doc and nurse.
Lots of talk. A bit of the usual physical, testing grip, sensation, recent physical, mental changes, whatever.

I guess it all goes into notes for the people on the 24 hour phone line. And to prepare other pallies for future visits. Pallies will drop by, perhaps weekly. It may not be the same two.
Exactly how it will work... I'm still working it out. Deb will have more ideas, she listens better. And can ask.
It's all a learning experience... my main takeaway is: knowledgeable and accessible support for deb.


Oh, yes, scared...

Somewhere in the chat I mutter, I'm scared.
I mutter but it is not missed.
Did you say that you are scared?


The pally role includes offering comfort.
I can tell that if I want to discuss my being scared, they will. Possibly offer good support, too.
The best I can do is... nod, shake my head, shrug non-committally.
If I tried to talk -- I would choke up. Possibly cry.
Am I scared? Yes. Why? Impossible for me to understand, let alone explain.

I am almost guaranteed a continuation of 99% painless cancer. Actual death is almost certain to be a painless drift to sleep, unaware when I fail to wake up.
I don't expect, certainly don't fear, an afterlife.

I've had plenty of time to get used to the idea of my dying.
If there's nothing after death then there is nothing to be scared of.

Perhaps I am scared that there *will* be something?
I think about that...
No... I'm so smug, so egotistical... so interested in the process:
If dying involves a light, if death includes an afterlife... I'm looking forward to analysing it, understanding it... in my own way.

Scared of the unknown? No. Nervous, okay -- but the unknown is just something new to be known.

Scared is the best word for how I feel.
I don't think that discussion would help.
So, back to my standard approach... deal, with it, accept it. Don't let it get me down. In particular, try not to let it turn into something that will hurt deb.

Wow! That sounds noble:-)
It's not. It's just the way that I deal with life. And, now, death.

This post is really difficult to write.mostly because I don't understand it myself. Having written, I feel better. But still can't explain why I'm am scared.
Oh well.







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Role of pallies

As they explain it the role of the palliative care doctor and nurse is to support and ease my death. Pain management and a bit, a lot, more.
They support me -- and deb. More importantly, deb.
There is a 24hour pally phone number.

If I am in pain, phone. Ask about pain medication from the pallies. Don't waste time explaining everything to a GP, the pallies know my case. They know. Even if they just send a prescription, it is most likely to be appropriate to my case.

If I fall, phone the pallies. Oh yes also (then) phone the ambulance. If something seems bad, phone the pallies.
They can offer advice, perhaps help. One number -- for any issues or concerns.
No need for deb to wonder, should I call, who to call, is this a real worry? Just one number to phone. Anytime.
To my mind, this is amazing. For deb.

For me... I have deb. Now I know that deb knows what to do... first... while the world decides what to do next.
Any treatment is for me but the support is... For deb.



My body is a temple to health and fitness.
but there is a devil-worshipper in the temple: notdotdeaddotyet.blogspot.com :-)

Die in the chair?

Deb is upstairs doing yoga.
I'm downstairs in a comfy chair, doing crosswords.
I'm tired, I could lean back and sleep. What if I sleep and die?
When deb comes down she says, so what, lots of people die while sitting in their chair.
Deb is not overly concerned with where. Good.
I suggest that she should at least open doors and air the house. We understand that the smell of death is almost impossible to remove.
Thinking now... may as well throw out the entire chair. Good, it's comfy but very old.
That's an advantage if I die in the chair, rather than in bed. Less upset to Deb and less furniture to dump.
Something to be glad about. If that's what happens...



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Wednesday, October 16, 2024

An absolute thrill

Pwmapapp was written over a year ago.
I set up some maps for fun and testing.
The plan is, the next Novelty rogaine can record control finds using the app.
With paper and pencil backup just in case. Well, paper and pencil as the real ecord, pw for extra fun... and to see if it really works.
I install the app on an Apple phone, it works. Clunky but effectively.
Then I put the app aside and spend a year doing all sorts of other things.

There are messages from Apple and from Android. Things which must be done to keep the app active.
Most messages I ignore. My ignorance is too deep to do anything useful.

In 2023 the rogaine is cancelled due to dangerously hot weather.
Now the rogaine is rescheduled, for a few weeks from now. We are preparing to try to run again.
By we I mean my co-setter. My health is bad, I can think but not do much.

Just for the heck of it, I load pwmapapp onto my tablet. A new, different tablet. Android. So, all new, all different...
And the bloody app still works!
Just as clunky. Just as effective. All colours, style, concept exactly as I originally visualised it.
What an absolute thrill :-)

With grateful memories of the coder. A man who could listen. And turn my idea. Into an actual... still working... app.
Amazing :-))
I'm thrilled




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Late night

Squeak, scrape, slide, Bing, squeak...
That's me, zimmer-framing between bed and toilet. And the good news...
No falling over. No feeling faint. No dizziness. No getting lost.
Just restless. Well, this has always been the time of day, night, when I want to do things :-)

All good, eh?


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Tuesday, October 15, 2024

What is wrong with me?

Sure, cancer. And terminal.
But why is it getting worse? Here's  how I understand it:


The cancer began as a hard tumour in my brain.
The tumour occupied brain space, pushed aside good brain. 
This caused actual damage, a sort of short circuit in my brain. This caused a seizure, I collapsed.

My cancer is an aggressive sort so the tumour was removed, radiated, chemo-d. All good, no real problems.

A side effect of radiation was further damage: expanding necrosis. To remove that, more brain was scraped out.
All this was in the visual cortex, the bit of brain that tells me what my eyes see.

The removed cortex was very specific, it interpreted what both eyes saw to my left. So I can't see, or understand what I see, on my left.


All this time, loose cancer cells drift round inside my brain. Impossible to remove.


Finally, some cancer cells find a home, settle down -- and grow into a new tumour.
Still near the original site. No great damage... but the new tumour continues to grow. Slowly.

Until...

For some reason, 
Unknown, this new tumour puts on a growth spurt. Always expected though the timing was was unknown.

The growth spurt expanded the tumour, still in the visual cortex. Caused a bit more damage to vision. I lost a bit more sight on my left. Not enough to really notice. Except...

The cancer has -- without much warning -- expanded well beyond my visual cortex. Into my brain stem, which is a very vital part of my brain. It controls much more than vision, though don't ask me for details.

Still thinking of my cancer as a hard tumour in my visual cortex, I go for a walk. Yes, I notice that it's harder to see to my left. Which makes me swerve as I walk. All vision symptoms. But what I also have is a form of stroke, damage to my brain. To the right, so the effects are all on my left.
Physical Weakness, loss of physical control.

Now the effects of brain stem damage are kicking in.

What sort of damage?

Yes, there is cancer / tumour.
Also... the cancer is causing related brain damage. Swelling. I think of it as bruising, caused by the growing tumour.

My brain is closing down. Tumour and swelling are causing pressure and physical damage to the brain.
Enough! The brain Can't be bothered keeping me upright.
I fall over.

Okay, into hospital.
The cancerour area is cauliflower shaped, far too complicated to allow removal of tumour. Not without risk of death, anyway.

But tablets can help:
Dex reduces the swelling, kepra prevents actual seizures.
All preventative -- there us no cure for this cancer, no chance of removing it.

The swelling is being managed but the cancer is still there, probably growing. In a very dangerous, to me, area of brain.
The brain stem is damaged, cancerous. I may collapse at any moment.
I walk very very carefully :-)

Due to brain stem damage -- still growing, unstoppable -- I will gow more tired. Weaker. And lose more control of my body... gradually growing paralysed.
Until I can't move. Or don't wake up.

But...
I'll start new chemo. Not a cure...
Dex will continue to reduce swelling, kepra to resist seizures. Both maintaining my quality of life (which is currently very good :-)


The next chemo... Beelzebub, a mono clonal antibody, I think...
Should reduce blood supply to the tumour, slow its growth. For weeks or months. Until the chemo no longer works. It's very new 
Treatment, effects uncertain.

With less brain swelling and less chance of seizures -- I'll be fine.
Until I'm not.
And then... I'll be someone else's  problem.

And that's how I understand it. If I'm wrong... I still believe that I'm  right :-)







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Fwd: back to everyday stuff



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Date: Tue, 15 Oct 2024, 2:43 pm
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Catching up on things. Emails and such. And... just yesterday... the paper printed one of my letters! An extra though small buzz:-))

Settling into the new house layout, and my orders to be careful.
In the morning I manage to shower, shave, brush teeth. cut nails. All by myself (with Deb within cooee. But not needed.
It's easy for me, it's Deb who needs to gain confidence in me. So, a bit relucantly: Deb is off to take grandson from school to swimming lesson. A few hours of me left all alone... with a phone, in a comfy chair. And zimmer frame within reach. 
No worries (by me). Deb needs to get out.






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Monday, October 14, 2024

Happy, tired, worried, happy

Sleep soundly, wake early. Even have a shower,  voluntarily.i will amaze deb:-)

Good to go. Ready to go.
Deb picks me up, does all the talking and paperwork and we leave. To drive home.
Deb, and the boys, have made a huge effort to make the house safe for me... in case I fall, again, or trip or just collapse. eg i am not, definitely not, allowed on any stairs. Difficult, in a house over3 or 4 levels.
It all feels so welcoming. I'm so pleased to be home.

Deb worries. Shows me where I go and don't go. We agree we can sort it all as we go along. We both hope there will be enough time to sort it all out.
Lunch, pause, dinner. Familiar, home cooked food.
Send a few emails, do some odds and ends that are easier done at home.
I sit in my allowed chair and fall asleep -- to wake up 3 hours later. Takes me a minute to get my bearings. Easy to remember where I am but I have to work out what time it is...
Okay, remember home, dinner, sit... must be 8... pm. Aha.

A momentary worry: as the cancer attacks my brain stem I will get more and more tired. But ... that is not yet :-)

I wake momentarily.
And... even if/though I am eventually dying -- it is not yet.

Happy. Very happy :-)





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Only when I'm actually dying

Family gathered round? Maybe, if they have nowhere better to be. Deb? Watching with sympathy, maybe holding my hand, sorry deb. Only if you want to.
Hushed whispers of the death watch? Forget it. Family chatting, kids shouting, no worries. But here's the biggie:
Why waste a learning experience.

There are creeps who make a living out of pretending that a dying person needs Dim lights, scented candles, very expensive paid hand-holders. I had an earlier rant about these disgusting "death doulas". If the survivors want fake comfort, fine, but why do they think that the dying person cares...

Ask me... when it's  happening.
I'll try to remain aware, as long as possible.
Ask me, do I enjoy the soft music? Would I prefer proper music, Queen or Meatloaf?
I'll do my best to respond. You know: a twitch of the finger for Yes. Or maybe for No, or maybe for Maybe... Ask me to twitch once if a twitch means yes... whatever.

I'll do my best to respond. To add useful knowledge to the understanding of death. Drive the death doula vultures into a more honest business.
See, I'm analytical, and interested. The death of an intelligent person is a brilliant opportunity to learn.
Or... I may just drop dead ;-)

But not right now, thanks. It's almost time for my breakfast.



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Timeline, unknown

The timeline to my death is, really, a total unknown.
In 2017 it was an average *expectation* of 18 months from diagnosis to death. Five years would be extreme.
With excellent surgery, improvements in medicine, who-cares attitude and enormous good luck, here I still am after seven years.

On my latest arrival at hospital the surgeon looked at my CT scan and said that I may never leave the hospital (alive).
He looked at the clearer MRI and said I may be dead within weeks. He's a surgeon, I would probably die under any attempted surgery. He's honest, says it as he sees it, I really appreciate honesty and like the man.
The oncologist offers newish chemo, sounds like beelzebub. I'll try it. The surgeon says it may keep me going for just maybe months, the oncologist hopes for maybe a couple of years. 
Really... no one has a definite answer.
You gotta laugh... or you'd have to cry. I'd rather laugh. I hope I can keep laughing right up to the end. I see the light! I see the light! It's... what the Hell is all that light ... LOL



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We're all gonna die

It's a cliche, we're all gonna die.
I just have a clear idea of likely cause. And... a short future timeline. Weeks to years is the current optimistic estimate. There are several good points.

I'm analytical. I really enjoy having so long to analyse the process.physical, mental, emotional, all ups and downs. Analysed,understood? Written down --then forgotten. So I can move to the next up or down. No regrets of the past, free to think about and try to accept the future. Exactly the way prefer it.

I am still very glad that it's me. As opposed to anyone else in my small family. Friends and further relatives get sympathy for death and illness, deb and children, I want them alive and well.
Though deb worries, that's bad, I'm sorry.
For others: sympathy, understanding, put up with me but please don't worry. It's happening, worry will do neither of us any good. 
As far as I know my cancer GBM4 or am I now at GBM5?! Is not hereditary, good. Certainly not catching. Good again.

So. Here and now: fine and dandy with undertones of fear and, disappointment... life is so short! There's so much left undone! On the other hand... I'm so lazy I'd never do much anyway. Slow speed enjoyment, happy to leave others to sort out the undone.

And no regrets.


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I'm awake

I wake up to go to the toilet at 530am. I'm awake so I may as well get others awake:-)

My balance to and from the toilet is fine. No confusion, no falling, not even swaying. Good.
I was awake till after midnight then slept soundly, a good typical night.I like typical, it's a good sign.
I ask for a cup of tea, get observations taken, all good. Blood sugar is 7.6, good, now I'm ready for breakfast,I'm not allowed to eat till after blood sugar.
And so my day begins -- on a high note :-)

This hospital room is too cold. But no direct wind on my bed and I'm prepared.i sleep in a wool thermal, wake damp but the wool is still warm as it dries. Smelly after several days but still so comfortable.
Yes, I know this is all a bit disgusting but that's me, not the hospital... I'm practising good attitude:-)

While awake I'm thinking deep thoughts, there are so many of them... I've had seven years to think about the surprising inevitability of my own death.all thoughts are somewhere in this blog but I may repeat highlights --because this blog is for me -- and really, I'm still coming to terms with the inevitable. My blog, my choice of topics. But not in this post.

I'm awake. Feeling as good as ever for any early morning. Waiting for breakfast. And really looking forward to seeing deb -- and getting home.



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Sunday, October 13, 2024

Motto

I have a new and relevant motto for my life:

My body is a temple dedicated to fitness and healthy lifestyle.
But the temple of the temple is occupied by a devil-worshipper.

ROFL



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A better day

Every day, in every way, we get a little bit better LOL

I've just spent 20 minutes trying to convince this tablet to accept voice input. With no luck. Oh well, perhaps another day... now to continue with one finger typing.

Blood sugar wobbles up and down. Probably  not a problem, the dex drug can cause that. Over a score of 10 and I get an insulin jab.after dinner I had 15.6 then a half dose of insulin. Just now, score of 10.9, better.
Anyway...

Deb was with me for most of the day. Very nice.
Then she went home to supervise the boys setting the house for safety: which means, no more stairs for me.
Deb and I will sleep downstairs. They will have brought the big bed down the stairs. Safely, I hope.
I can't avoid all steps in tour house, just a few steps between garage and new sleeping level.and a few to the kitchen if I want to make a cup of tea.

Deb was really worried, The house is not safe!
Then she got the bit between her teeth and sorted it all out. With expert advice and heavy lifting help from the boys. Tomorrow I'll see the results, probably an amazingly safe house and many aching muscles.

I'm excited :-)
Tomorrow afternoon I'll be home again.

With minor drugs to keep me "okay" for three weeks. To be followed by three months of chemo... IV drip feeds every three weeks.

The chemo is not a cure. It will slow down tumour growth and maintain quality of life... for weeks. Or months. Or... most optimistic guess... almost two years. With MRI scans every three months, to see if it's working.
Ha, who knows. I'll be able to wear the motto shirts again: Enjoy life, three months at a time:-)


At least I can stop expecting mysterious but unpredictable symptoms of brain damage. My only worry will be to be careful. Of increasing tiredness, growing paralysis, eventually failing to wake up. Simple... no *unknown*possibilities... and that's something to be glad about.


Good company.Predictable problems. A definite plan. Going home tomorrow...

Today is a much better day.








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Status 13oct24

It's 4am on a Sunday. I woke up half an hour ago, cold and thirsty.and, now, tired but a bit restless. A good time to think about how I am and how I feel.

Emotionally: quite good, really.
It may be that I really have passed through denial,etc,and into acceptance. Definitely not happy but --right here and now -- content to accept what is happening.
I almost typed, what *will* happen.
No. I'm... closest I can think of it is...I'm annoyed.
So much to do.most of which I could never do anyway. See, if I ruled the world... I have so many ideas for improvement :-) most of which would be impossible or fail, I have another blog for them...
So do I have "so much to live for"? No, rubbish.i've lived and am living an excellent life. Like most people I guess, I could do, should have done, a whole lot more, even better.
I'd like to save the world but, A. could i? Perhaps my ideas are wrong, B,is the world worth saving? Definitely yes, 
C does the world want to be saved? Probably not, not to my particular standards anyway.

Sorry, rambling. And there's more.
I hope I have made a difference. In a small way, in a small area. If my world saving drive was stronger -- I would be miserable for never meeting an impossible, possibly wrong, standard.
I hope I have made deb's life happy. I'm amazingly impressed by our two boys. Pleased with the two "daughters" they have married into the family. Two grandchildren growing up to be terrific. Enough :-)

Let someone else save the world. They'll get it wrong but I won't be here to worry.

Right now I am tired but happy. With undertones of fear and misery and... relief. Seven years of worry getting closer to the long expected end. Phew :-)


Physical status: dying.
Brain cancer diagnosed as GBM4 in 2017.
Now: tumour extended into the brain stem. Deadly. Life expectancy anywhere from weeks to months. Not years.
Surgery too dangerous. Chemo possible, may help, will not cure. May stretch my life to that extra less-than-one-year.

Current symptoms are tendency to fall over. But with rest, two minor drugs and careful walking I'm feeling fine.
Stuck in hospital but will leave tomorrow -- to suit my preference to die at home.
And that's the thing. Dying is definite but I have some choice of where. When, is completely random. I will get weaker. Head to paralysis. Sleep more. Hopefully not fall again. Finally not wake up. Easy as.

If I have to have terminal cancer this is the one to have.
Plenty of time to enjoy, gain sympathy, get embarrassed because I'm still alive.
Clear knowledge of what's happening, time to analyse (sorry) and no pain at all.
Headaches in the last weeks, rated one to three on a one to ten scale. Trivial.

Mental status: no worse than ever... as far as I can tell :-) rambling on is not cancer, it's just me.
Happy because I'll be going home on Monday, the reason doesn't matter, home with Deb is a terrific cheerer-upper... for me, I hope also for deb.

I'm thinking... I'll never save the world. But I'm still doing things to make me more satisfied with my achievements.

Last night I typed the start of my next of a dozen or more short stories. Some are printed not published... my legacy... stories as silly as me.


There's "my app". A brilliant app to draw more tourists to more destinations. Sure, tourism WA refuse to listen but I still try.
Next month is a rogaine. I'm one of the setters, the rogaine will use my app! It will work, unless it's been wiped from the app libraries. 
It still needs a heap of work. If people do use it for the rogaine, if it gains some interest even amazement, I will be thrilled.

See? So much still happening. I will die. My app may be forgotten. Stories may be read then ignored.
My family will do brilliant things, or not, if they don't. I love them all and am immensely proud of them all (while blaming deb for how good they are)
Here and now,cheerful, not happy but contented.
Done enough. Could have done more but I've done something. And if there's an afterlife -- I want to ask Houdini why he has still not reported back to earth.
And the rest... I leave to someone else.
Does anyone want it?



I have tried but abandoned attempts to write my life story. Perhaps I can just say: marrying deb was the best thing I have ever done.

I have a short travel journal by my father, it's fascinating. Perhaps this blog and my own travel journals will, some say, entertain someone but for now they are for my own benefit.tonight's ramble clears my mind. It may not be coherent but now my mind is clearer. I'm depressed but happy. Satisfied with the here and now. Ready to enjoy the shortish term and, after that... not my worry.





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Saturday, October 12, 2024

Zimmer challenges

Walking with a zimmer frame looks so easy... it's  not.
Luckily I had a training course.
First... don't steer like a car. To turn, drag it around.
Second, get the right height. The physio says that my loaner is too short and it is.
The frame is for balance but I lean on it and I'm leaning too low so my shoulders ache.
I've just done a few solo laps of the corridor. First "walking" for a week.
Legs feel strong enough but I need to balance without leaning .ie without resting any weight on the frame.
I'll soon be ready for my home zimmer, which will be the correct height.
I tell you, it may look easy ... but it still needed the training course.

And this morning I had a shower... all by myself.
The nurse suggested sitting so I did. I could stand up for a bit but didn't want to try my luck. So I sat.

In the last week I've had one stagger and two falls, none serious. But the second fall came with no warning at all. That worries me.
I now try to walk, stand, sit, move -- as though I could fall at any time. Always ready to reach support.
In the words of Batman: both hands on the Batwheel, Robin :-)


Closer to home

I get daily doses of Dex. It reduces swelling in the brain and is an "upper" and it kicked in early so I'm wide awake.
Last night I sent an email update to siblings. For myself I like to be clear when someone else is having problems. I was not as clear as I hoped :-) still, it a cheery thing to swap stories with family and friends.

Now I should be writing the next short story that is bubbling through my mind. But my stories require a certain slightly mad frame of mind and absolutely no interruptions. The hospital is waking up and... interruptions will happen.
So.
Deb and the boys will spend the weekend removing trip and fall hazards from our house. I should be home on Monday.
There will be weeks or months of IV treatment mostly based from home.
There is absolutely nothing more that must be done in a hospital.
And that is something to be glad about :-)



Friday, October 11, 2024

Feeling fine-ish

Yes I'm feeling fine... but... I'd rather be home.

I'm getting used to calling for a nurse before I go for a pee!
I'm good with the zimmer frame, the walk is just 3m.
But I remind myself-- the final fall that sent me to hospital was entirely unannounced. So I follow instructions. Well, if I do get out of bed by myself, the alarm shrieks at me. So I'm a good boy :-)

Thursday, October 10, 2024

Descent into gloom

It's  just me in an increasingly cold hospital. Okay, I can hear someone else coughing themselves to death but that's  not good company.
I tell the delightful young trainee nurse Rosie that I will soon be a miserable old git, I apologise in advance.
I can feel my mood sinking. I really hoped to be home today, dying or not I want to be home. With Deb.

A woman comes in, I think she's  the OT from earlier, to confirm tomorrow's house safety check. Now I think about it she must be with the loud mouthed palliative care wanker. Strangers came and went all day, they knew who they were, I didn't. 
I'm not allowed out of bed by myself, in fact I feel that it's a sensible precaution.
If I stand up, an alarm goes off, which is a real pain.
Just to cheer myself up I may call a nurse for a cup of tea and a trip to the toilet. Then wrap in every blanket and sleep for a bit.but I'd rather read a book... at home even better.




Lots of visitors

Nurses, OTs, family, doctors, specialists, all visit.
Luckily Deb is there for most of the day. She explains who they are and what they want...
Eg. One bloke talked solidly, I caught a word or two here and there, deb finally clarified.
He's  palliative care. Doc Daphne treats the disease, he tries to ease life around the diseased.
So he will suggest or organise things like handrails in the house. But wait, the OT was talking about that... perhaps she was with him?
Sheesh. What I need is a slow clear introduction. With the fast talkers it just washes over me, I get points and ignore the rest.
If deb is there she gets it all. If it's  just me I wait till I'm told clearly what to do.

Someone today went back to a drug that Daphne mentioned. Beelzebub or similar. It is *not* a cure. It *may* slow down the tumour and also ease some symptoms.

As the surgeon said, the tumour/cancer will still kill me. This drug may delay it...
Ah, it was the palliative bloke who said, it may delay death possibly for months but *not* for years.
We'll  try the drug, despite the usual pages of possible but unlikely side effects

Far more interesting: I've  finally shared a shower with an attractive young woman.
Not as exciting as it sounds when she's  a fully dressed nurse and I'm  a weary old man.but still an an exciting fantasy to tick off my to-do list:-)

Last night I was pleased to think that there's nothing more the hospital can do for me but at least I can now go home. Except that deb is all worried about making the house safe for me.
So, imstuck in hospital for...several more days.
Sigh :-(

late night chaos

Wednesday night I spend a few hours blogging then setting up a swype keyboard on the new tablet.
then drop the new and very slippery tablet on the floor.
I get out of bed to pick it up and while up to go the toilet.
completely forgetting the alarm against moving off the bed and moving away from the bed.
I'm barely half way to the toilet feeling embarrassed listening to two alarms when two nurses arrive.

I m escorted back to bed then ask for a cup of tea.
it's half past two time to get some sleep.so I sleep though it's very cold
sleep till seven thirty which is now

in a cold restless sleep I realise...I may as well check out today because the hospital can do no more for me:-)
I send an enemail to the oncologist easy
then to Deb that will get a more difficult reception...
ah breakfast is here


Gentle lead in

NB. I blame all typos on the new and unfamiliar tablet.

The last few days have been rather exciting.
Monday night I wake up to go to the toilet, a couple of times.
Third time is at 6am. This time I sit up and fall over.

I can't get up. Not even roll over. No way deb could lift my 90kg. She calls an ambulance.
Three ambos lift me then step me downstairs and into an ambulance.
I'm annoyed that we will miss taking Will to his swimming lesson.
I practise my people recognition skills: callan with the ginger beard, cathy with the rather nice crown of frizzy hair, jeanine with diamond ear studs.

They take me, and deb, to RPH emergency.

Hmm... all I remember of ED is eofa? the attractive Irish doctor. And I get a CT scan.

Robbie thinks we are off to Charlie's so, once again, chases his father across town to an ED

I have a ct scan of my head.
Daphne the oncologist is contacted and mark the surgeon. They agree that I need to be in St john's so more ambulance, just me. Deb and Robbie drive and meet me there.

A lot of debate about possible damage due to fall. I did hit my head, and shoulder, on the way down. But barely and I had fallen the day before.
Check in to St john's. And that is Tuesday morning


Someone comes in to my ward. I say, you're not who I thought you were... my first thought was, Robbie then... ah, it's Mark the surgeon. See how bad I am at recognising people? Tho it's 7 or 8 years since I've seen him and he's gained weight.
Mark knows me, has spoken with Daphne, has seen the ct scan. He says that I may not get out of the hospital

I really like Mark. Daphne knows cancer. Mark knows the brain and is realistic and honest.

Another visitor. Is it daphne? No, it's her associate. She talks, I barely understand a word she says. To ask a question I have to interrupt her. Annoying woman.



It's like a stroke. A form of stroke? My left side is weak.
My left hand is a noticeable nuisance,it doesn't feel anything and can't hold anything. Have you ever tried to tear off a sheet of toilet paper with effectively one hand?!
I'm not allowed to walk... eg to the toilet... by myself :-(
I'm exhausted, sleep soundly. Despite the unfamiliar hospital noises. I wake a few times and miss deb :-(
Wednesday: a day of eating, resting, getting an MRI.
The family visit, that's very nice. Oh, do I want the grandchildren to visit? I would enjoy it but, definitely not demanded.

Wednesday,
The dex has done its swelling reduction job, I have a bit more strength in left limbs. Left hand is a bit stronger -- but still can't hold anything.
I walk myself to the toilet despite orders. I call  nurse to guarantee that I can get back to bed.
Exciting news for me and the nurse, forthe first time in a week, my bowels have moved. a number four on the poo scale we agree great news, now I feel better, relieved. My great fear in hospital is constipation. :-)


I write some emails organising the rogaine that I set with Brian. It was cancelled last year due to extreme heat, it will run in November. 
I realise that I've been sitting, typing, getting colder and colder, now I feel rotten.
I put on the warm clothes that deb has brought :-) the room is... cold. Of course I don't complain, ha.
I need a nurse to help get the clothes on, dratted failing motor skills. Now I'm feeling warm and good.

I phone auntie pat, she complains about me trying to outdo her in illness. A lovely lady, now 87 and not at all well.

Mark the surgeon has analysed today's MRI. that's in the post hello next world
I may have finished with hospitals. And that's something to be glad about:-)


















Wednesday, October 9, 2024

Hello next world

That subject line is an old programmer's joke. But relevant.
Mark the brain surgeon came by for a post MRI chat. He offered various options: 
Do nothing and I will die from my growing brain tumour.
Or opt for surgery which will not help at all, the tumour has grown too far, I will still die.
Or try surgery and it's quite likely that I will die under the knife.
Deb and I plan to go home so I can die at home.
Daphne the oncologist may offers drugs to alleviate symptoms. Eg dex which reduces brain swelling, so less
Headaches and some improvement in muscle strength. And then I will die.
The only question is, when
Though a day earlierMark said that I would never leave this hospital... so he's now more optimistic:-)
The previous MrI was perhaps two months ago. At that Tate of growth, another two months to live seems optimistic.

Deb so I expect that I am on a quick trip to the next world. After 48 years of excellent marriage with an excellent  unexpected 8 year bonus at the end :-)

I asked Mark, how will I die?
The tumour is now established in thebrain stem 
some essential Body functions May quit or I may just get more and more paralyzed or the brain stem dies and apparently I will then be dead so not terrific 
I think that I accept it but I can't say that I'm happy ditto Deb, not happy but well that's life and death 

can't think of anything else to say except I seem to have mastered voice dictation to an email and that's something to be glad about I'll probably be back when I get home
Well, I guess I will get home, there's nothing more that the hospital can do.
 but meanwhile over and out from the hospital 
goodbye to both my readers :-)
... Nick







Monday, October 7, 2024

Whoopsie

I'm eating lunch, a tub of yoghurt, I drop the tub.
No slipping, no fumbling, just forget to keep my hand closed.yoghurt spltters well, on floor, clothes, furniture
I wipe up what I can see. I miss max the dog, he would have tracked down and kicked up every speck of spilled yoghurt :-)

Awkward

I slid gently to the floor then could not get up again.
I could barely slide along on my backside.
I lay on the floor for 20 minutes till I could hoist myself onto a low chair. All very awkward :-)
I've been sitting for a while, now I can stand and walk, very carefully but I'll avoid stairs and bending over.
This means no more cups of tea till deb gets home, now that is very awkward.


Monday

Saturday was a beautiful spring day. We went to bold Park,
Deb went for a run, I sat in the car.
After, deb walked me 100m to the toilet, that was far enough for me:-)
I have a continuous headache, generally mild though one morning it woke me too early.! IKeep dropping things. Just small soft things.if I don't think about them I just forget, my gingers relax, it drops.

I have trouble picking things up with finger and thumb. Eg a piece of toast, I can seefinger, thumb, toast but not all at once that's not quite right, but whatever the problem is, it takes concentration, then more concentration to get the toast to my mouth.

I think that I am not really dizzy but have lost more vision so can't clearly see my feet, this makes me feel unsteady.
Ttumour has been growing for months. Now finally it is affecting me. No more worry about possible symptoms, I have them. So I can stop worrying.
In fact, I do feel quite cheerful. Physically rotten but emotionally cheerful. I can still walk, carefully and talk  and think.

Sunday: meant to be a fun run... no way. I stay home, deb stays home in sympathy.
Family are here for dinner, always a pleasure. Two of them did the run, had fun.
I'mSo. I'm Not good but could be worse at least I'm at home :-)



Sunday, October 6, 2024

Bad head

It's 4am. I'm downstairs and feeling poorly.
An hour ago I woke with a headache. Sharp enough that I could not get back to sleep. So I came downstairs.

Deb followed, I notice how attractive she is in her nightclothes :-)
Deb gives me panadols and tea then goes back to bed. I hope she can sleep. (I'm okay, I can sleep any time, anywhere, eventually.
I still have a headache but sitting up is better than lying down in bed.

Btw: I'm using a new computer tablet. It's good but has new ways to mistype.


Friday, October 4, 2024

A bad run

After sitting on the couch for a week I need to get out, so I set off around the lake.
I'm okay for a couple of km, then I tire. Not that I'm going fast, barely a slow walk but I feel tired. And unsteady.
I swerve across the track, sometimes almost off the track.
I focus on the RHS of the track, where I can see. That's a bit better but I still swerve. And I'm  getting very tired.
Where there's a seat I sit and rest. And feel wobbly just sitting.
I stand still and feel wobbly. Not falling over but unsteady. Unsteady when standing isn't a great problem, u til I stop for a pee.

I reach the pony club, about 4km round.
I'm unsteady but still upright. So tired I can barely keep moving. If I could, I would stop but, well, I have to get home.
Icould phone deb but I'm  still moving, even it it's  very very slow.

At 7km of an 8km circuit I stop. I can't just stand so I lean on a post.
Three very nice people ask if I'm  okay, not really, I admit. They look after me. Help me sit on the grass, help me stand up again.
Walk with me to the nearest road.
Two stay with me, one rides, push bike, home to fetch a car. 
I phone deb to tell her what's happening. Deb is watching my progress via our location sharing -- and worried at how slow I'm moving.
The man returns in his car, gives me a lift home. Deb is waiting.
The man comments that he would not like to have his own father left needing help. I may look, old but I suspect he looked at deb and thought, daughter :-)

So all is well. Thanks to the kindness of strangers.
Home again. Deb looks after me.
I'm  exhausted and still very unsteady. I am very very careful on stairs. And almost as careful on level floors. In fact I won't  like to move suddenly while sitting down.
I let deb deal with the load of washing that I set going before I went out.

Even before I went out I was having "symptoms"
All day mild headache. We spoke with the cancer doc, I'll  be scanned next week anyway.
Take panadols and see the doc after the scan.
As well as a headache I am all fumble lingered.
I have trouble with shoelaces and buttons.
I'd  say I'm  going back to childhood but I claim i never left it :-)

Hours later: I'm  tired, I walk very carefully, headache is there but very very mild so I'm  not well but not bad.
And on the bright side: when we next see the cancer doc, at last I will have some symptoms to describe.
No more stressful wondering and waiting. And that's  something to be glad about:-)











Wednesday, October 2, 2024

How do I feel? Rotten

the last few scans show that my brain is growing a new tumour. This is bad.
At first I thought, so cut it out. The more professional opinion is, brain surgery is serious and dangerous. To be used as a last resort -- and only when it begins to affect me. Since then I watch out for "symptoms". Such as falling over. The brain is complex, the tumour is random, no one can predict the symptoms. But headaches are always mentioned.
The cancer doc mentions "stroke", the tumour is on the right so may lose function on the left. This is briliant, mow I regularlyraise both fists in the air, check that bothers rise to the same height. This is the standard stroke test. Easy and, so far it's good.
Butheadaches... I've had a headache, mild, for 2 or 3 weeks
I tell myself that cold weather always gives me a headache, reading, I read a lot, gives an  headache.
All good excuses but I'm still scared.
Sk how am i?
Physical: much as ever but... very versatile tired.
One day we look after the grandkids. I'd enjoy it but can't face a day of non stop fun. I leave it to deb. Poor deb is exhausted.
I sleep, on and off, for several days and feel better but still tired.
Today I rest again, all day. I still have a mild headache.
 Tomorrow I should run again.
So that's physical. Lousy ;-(

Mental: okay, I think, I read, I do crosswords.
Emotional: I'm shit. Miserable, with fits of temper.
Deb calms me, puts up with me. But I upset deb and deb being upset makes me even more miserable.

Not a good week or two.
On the other hand... right now im feeling more cheerful. Lots of rest and sleep and a few things going right. I plan to be cheerful by tomorrow. Still pessimistic but, cheerful.









Saturday, September 28, 2024

over-training

Next week we have a 10km fun run. Its a flat course so today we test ourselves at Yanchep. Around loch mcness is a pleasant, flat, easy run.
except... its 12km and the trail has lots of small foot zized limestone rocks. and bushes either side.
poor deb. she has to slow down to my pace and listen to me complaining that i am unsteady on the rocks.
its hard work for both of us but we enjoy it.
definitely not as flat as in the days of our youth (and my better vision:-)
a good day in excellent company. and now we have confidence that we can do the 10km actually flat fun run.




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Saturday, September 21, 2024

running not alone

This morning Deb and I are in John Forrest National Park for a run. A beautiful day, flowers just starting to appear.
The trail is just rough enough that I have to be careful, I stumble once or twice.
We finish with a picnic lunch.
All very pleasant :-)

Deb and I go to the same GP. One day Deb mentions fun runs. The GP exclaims, I hope you don't let Nick run alone... Weeelll .
It does make me think.
If I'm going to collapse again while running, I'd rather do it in a fun run.
In an organised fun run there are thousands of other runners to tell someone that I've fallen over. Also there are ambulances ready and waiting all along the course.
If it's just me and Deb on a run -- Deb has all the worry, I don't want that.
Today we run just over 9km and we *both* totally fail to fall over. So: all good so far :-)


Dr Nick Lethbridge / Consulting Dexitroboper
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Tuesday, September 10, 2024

relaxation

monday: last day in balingup, we relax.
breakfast at our cottage. morning tea at the mushroom cafe, lunch at the packing shed. both are on the highway, shed seems a bit set back, the trucks are loud. cafe seems closer, trucks feel very close. but both are comfy with nice food.

we go the the flora reserve at the old racecourse. a bit early for flowers, there are only a few. a pretty little yellow mushroom as big as a fingernail.
a pleasant walk but... a lot of mozzies.

we go to golden valley tree park. another pleasant walk, with only a few mozzies... the weather is cool and damp.
we follow the blue trail, less than a km. about half way -- we see "our" tree. a silver mallet, eucalyptus recta.
deb thinks it's dead, certainly the scrawny branches look poorly. i scratch at the bark and that seems okay, alive and fresh.
it's not a magnificent tree but we like it :-)

we meet the Highview owner. the place is also an animal rescue place. with sheep, kangaroos, emus, a mini horse, a couple of llamas (or whatever). Plus some overactive dogs and various poultry.

back at our cottage, we relax. till we go out to dinner at the shamrock hotel in greenbushes. it's hamburger night. but we have fish and chips. not the best, the fish is overcooked. still, it's food and a nice pub.
and that's it, drive home, to relax some more.
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Now it's tuesday morning. soon we pack up and drive home
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on this old tablet i can type and send posts, they are held till there is wifi and internet. i think this will be the third post waiting to go. its a good system, i can type when i like, no need for internet. just a delay till it is actually sent and posted.

now time to move, then pack...






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